“There is nothing so American as our national parks…. The fundamental idea behind the parks…is that the country belongs to the people, that it is in process of making for the enrichment of the lives of all of us.” President Franklin D. Roosevelt’s words are an important reminder, a reminder that we are ambassadors of … Read more The Right to Nature – Norway’s Ancient Law
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It’s so funny how so many of us are in a hurry to leave our hometown, city, state, or country. In the rush to leave and experience new places we sometimes forget to explore our own backyards. Growing up in Indiana my entire life I never made the short 3 hours drive to Indiana Dunes. … Read more The Nation’s Newest National Park – Indiana Dunes
We are constantly looking forward to our days off, our next trip, or the weekend. In fact, in today’s world of social media filled with picture perfect filters and constant travel content; the feeling of escape is well, hard to escape. What if there wasn’t a need for escape, is it possible to form a … Read more How to Build a Life You Don’t Need to Escape From
Or so you may think. We promise to deliver honest, unedited content. It’s not always going to be pretty pictures and posts. This isn’t just a curated travel blog. It’s our life! As gay men, as a couple, as humans. The struggle is real, and we promise to share that part too.
Last October Daniel and his Mom were planning a trip to the Cape Cod region of Massachusetts for a family wedding. I hadn’t yet met Dan’s parents but his Mom invited me on the trip anyway! A little bit of pressure meeting your boyfriend’s mom on vacation, but that may be a post for another time.
Cape Cod is a hook shaped peninsula on the state of Massachusetts. It’s the site of small, quaint fishing towns, lighthouses, history and of course Provincetown, one of the top LGBTQ+ destination in America.
We stayed in the small village of Hyannis or as I liked to refer to it, The Anus. The town was definitely in it’s off season, many of the small shops and restaurants had closed down for the winter. Not everything was closed though, there was still plenty of open shops and restaurants to enjoy. We departed Hyannis to head to our first recommended activity!
#1 Bike Riding on Martha’s Vineyard
Honestly I didn’t know what the hell Martha’s Vineyard was. Dan is definitely the travel planner in the relationship, so I had to ask, who was Martha and why were we visiting her vineyard?!
Accessible only by boat or air, Martha’s Vineyard is an island just South of Cape Cod. A two hour round trip ferry to the island is $59.00 so make sure you give yourself plenty of time to enjoy the island. The first ferry leaves at 8:00 AM and the the final returning ferry back to Hyannis is around 9:00 PM.
Right off the dock there are a few bike rentals to choose from. We did not book in advance, although this is an option. We chose Martha’s Vineyard Bike Rentals and paid a day rate of $30.00 for a 21 speed mountain bike. This also included a bike trail map, lock, and helmet.
We started on the Oak Bluffs to Edgartown bike route. A map of Martha’s Vineyard bike routes can be found here. The beginning of the route is laid out with gorgeous beach views to the left, as well as views of the bay to your right. If the wind and season is right, you may see wind surfers skating around the water’s surface.
After a few miles you’ll arrive in Edgartown. This well preserved 19th century village built by whaling captains has been carefully maintained. It’s cobblestone streets are a little narrow, so be sure to stay on the path and try not to hit pedestrians.
We kept cycling down to Chappy Road to catch views of Cape Poge to take in some views of the starch white lighthouse that resides there. Did you know this lighthouse appeared in the movie ‘Jaws’?
We took the Edgartown-Vineyard Haven Road path and cut over to County Road on our way back. Get ready to get that workout in! This trail has some major inclines, but hey, it’s good for the bod.
#2 Hiking the National Seashore
The Cape Cod National Seashore is extensive and covers most of the northeastern border of the cape, protecting an array of beaches. We chose the Great Island Trail which is about a 4.7 mile loop. This trail offers a variety of diverse landscapes, from marshland, to beach, to forest; all these worlds collide.
The beginning and most of the trail is sand. So be prepared to get sand in your shoes, or walk barefoot, which is what I eventually chose to do. Walking through the dunes can be exhausting so make sure you bring plenty of water, we recommend the KUYOU 2L Hydration Bladder.
Winding through the dunes, takes you through the bay marshlands. Speckled all throughout the soft landscape are tiny holes. Before you know it you will notice movement as tiny crabs scurry sideways, entering and maneuvering through a system of underground tunnels. I was nervous about stepping on them at first, but they were quick to get out of the way.
The marsh ends at the beginning of an enchanting pine forest. In Autumn you will find many locals, hunting the mushrooms in the forest (FYI, we later discovered this is illegal). The pines open up to a beautiful meadow.
Stepping out of the forrest transcends to a flat meadow that ends at towering dunes, constantly collecting sands carried on the winds of an ocean breeze. Hiking up to the top of the dunes gives great views of the Atlantic. We took a breather here admiring the views and one another. After we caught our breath we headed down to the beach to enjoy the ocean and search for seashells.
On our way back into the forest we encountered a very different kind of local. A coyote began walking along side us. He tested his curiosity taking a few steps towards us then turned away to head back into the meadow. He gave us one last glance, which Dan captured beautifully below.
This trail is worth every grain of sand that was stuck in our shoes. Please do not miss the opportunity to take in these gorgeous New England landscapes.
#3 Kayaking Salt Pond Bay
I just need to take a moment to give a shout out to Dan’s Mom, Mary. Mary is in her 50’s and was able to keep up with us (and sometimes even surpass us, in every activity), very impressive! Our final and most entertaining activity was kayaking in the Salt Pond Bay on the East coast of Cape Cod.
We booked our three hour kayaking adventure Cape Kayaking. with Kayaking begins in the Nauset Marsh, however, you can only kayak this area during High Tide. The Marsh provides an route to Salt Pond Bay, home to many seals who wonder in from the ocean to bob around and fish in the bay. I was anxious to see the seals, and see if I could get an opportunity to pet one. The kayak instructor ruined my dreams though when he informed that the seal would bite us and give us “seal rot.” I tried to research this further, but couldn’t find anything? I think he was just keeping us from the seal’s love.
Once we arrived to the center of the bay, little bald heads began popping up all around us. We loved watching the seals play. We watched as they would pop up, go back under and then pop up closer, and then closer; but still no pets.
We had about 6 in our group. One guy flipped his kayak and said he couldn’t do it anymore. Our guide had to tow him; he asked the amateur to help him paddle. He wasn’t helping the guide any so Mary called him out and said”you better be helping him paddle!” Get em’ Mary!
We arrived at a small sandbar and relaxed a bit. We walked up and down beach enjoying the birds, (Dan enjoyed them a little too much, see below). We then ventured back the way we came, and said goodbye to the seals!
That wraps up our Cape Cod adventures. Which one sounds the most appealing to you?
Sometimes you need a little more than the About Us section to really outline any sense of a person or in this case a couple. If you’d prefer the succinct version checking out the About Us piece is fine, but if you want to know how “we” came to be, stick around.
The gay dating scene has never been easy – especially for me. I remember when the first commercial – yes, commercial on television came across the television almost exactly 10 years ago in March 2009, highlighting Grindr. I was at home visiting my parents from college and thought, what an ingenious idea; now I think, what a shit show disaster/hot mess express.
It would take many other online dating sites and apps before I landed my main squeeze. Not to mention a couple relationships and dates I lost count of. When I moved home after graduating college to my hometown (population, 4200) to take on my first restaurant management job on a riverboat casino, my chances of finding love dwindled quite a bit. The only real options were between the closeted Amish guy next door or the closeted redneck plowing his daddy’s field. Oh, the decisions!
I really had to branch out here! I started with the website Gayquation, a personalized gay matchmaking service out of California. They put me through a rigorous telephone questionnaire, from personal questions like, top or bottom, to more general insights like hobbies, and favorite food. Weeks later they finally coupled me up with two guys, one already in a relationship and the other never returned my emails – guess this equation didn’t equal love.
Next up was Match.com, if you don’t pay for the subscription you basically get to see you have messages but aren’t able to read or respond. This goes for the other side too. If you send a message the other person may not be able to read or respond – so a lot of this ended in wasted time and energy.
Now I will say I had Bumble and Tinder throughout and liked the engaging sense that both of them offered through the swipe feature. I did land quite a few dates, and some short-term relationships. These apps are definitely more relationship oriented as long as you are direct and call out what your looking for. Let me reiterate, BE DIRECT! Do not waste your time, set expectations, be honest, post REAL PICTURES, and be relentlessly YOU. I always made the attempt to get out of the app and on the phone as soon as possible. Don’t waste each others time, it’s too valuable.
Ok, off my soapbox. The above strategy worked perfectly when I finally swiped right on the most handsome man, my amazing Daniel. Dan had the exact same mindset as me – numbers were exchanged, he called me immediately and setup a date the next day! The rest is really history, we instantly hit it off and put the dating apps in the grave. Just know that there is hope out there, and keep swiping.
Puerto Rico is comprised of one main island and many smaller islands, in the Caribbean Sea. The island is a United States territory, and therefore the primary languages are both Spanish and English, making this country one of the few in the world that is officially bilingual . The island is host to 3.6 million people with 400,000 inhabitants living in the capital city of San Juan.
In September 2017 Puerto Rico was hit with a category 5 hurricane; hurricane Maria. The devastation was tremendous causing flooding, a lack of resources, an extensive electrical outage, and loss of life. Now just over a year later we get to be part of the message that the spirit of Puerto Rico is unbroken, and this island is open for business!
Our flight was an early one from Louisville, KY. January in Kentucky is always unpredictable, and of course we had to to drive through two inches of snow. No delays thankfully! After a short 4 hour flight to San Juan we were greeted with sunny weather and the need to get out of our sweatpants.
Day 1 – Check-In, El Yunque & Fajardo
We rented a car and headed to our Airbnb hacienda in San Juan. This place was gorgeous. We were greeted to our own private oasis. The gate opened up to a secret garden of lush banana trees and beautiful flora, the cobblestone steps lead directly to a private pool with a rushing waterfall fountain. The front porch was appointed with treasures from the ocean, including colorful corals and large shells.
The interior was comprised of an open air floor plan with floor to ceiling windows lining the entirety of the living room, the space was adorned with rich colors, and puerto rican culture. Our host is a retired pilot and is currently a professional paddle boarder. Her home is a perfect display of all of her discoveries from her travels.
The backyard was probably our favorite, an atmosphere curated for relaxation. A sprawling back porch with a hammock, two chickens clucking around, and hanging garden lights swaying with the sea breeze.
Unfortunately we would have to take the beauty our accommodation in at a later time. We had a busy schedule ahead of us; most days shooting would begin at 6am and end at 8pm, so we had to make the most of any free time we had. We decided to head to El Yunque National Forest, the only tropical rain forrest in the National Forest system.
It took us 40 minutes to get to El Yunque, but we only had a couple hours of daylight left, so we stuck to one hike. We chose to hike La Coco Falls, it’s a short walk to the waterfall, but our wandering spirits couldn’t just stop there. We decided to hike above the waterfall until we had our own private pool overlooking the forrest giving way to the sunset. A little skinny dipping may have happened here too.
Then came the downpour, expected in a rain forest I suppose; quick tip, don’t ever forget your hiking shoes. Nike gym shoes just aren’t met for wet, slippery conditions.
After the hike we decided to head to Fajardo to night kayak the bioluminescent bay at Laguna Grande Nature Preserve. Fajardo is on the eastern side of the island and is home to one of three bioluminescent bays. Quick fact: There are only five bioluminescent bays in the world and Puerto Rico is home to three!
A 25 minute drive landed us near the bay. We did not make any online reservations with a kayaking company, we literally were just hoping to jump on one last minute. Once we arrived at the bay, we scouted a few different kayaking company tents, and everyone was booked up. Island Kayaking Adventures told us that if we found four more people they would open up one more time slot.
We started recruiting and it didn’t take us long before we had a crew! While we waited we headed to one of the tiny food stands across the street and had the two sweetest elderly ladies make some fresh empanadas. They were so sweet and tolerated my choppy Spanish. After we ate I thought about adopting them as our grandmas but we couldn’t be late for the tour! Bye Grandmas!
After a quick rundown on kayaking we were off. To get to the preserve you must first cross a bay that opens up to the sea. It was breathtaking to kayak by the light of the moon and only being able to see the blue light of the kayak in front of you (groups are color coded so you don’t get lost). As we wound through the narrow canal, our tour guide gave us insight into the wildlife that resided there, he also explained that the flagellates, which are tiny micro-organisms; makes it’s food through photosynthesis, and this process causes them to glow giving the bay its luminescence.
After about 30 minutes we entered the bay. The guide asked us to dip our hand in the bay and wave it back and forth. The water began to sparkle and then ignite as the flagellates came to life. We then locked kayaks and a tarp was passed around kayak to kayak to block out all light. We all put our hands in the water and splashed to light up the tarp, such a neat experience! We were later informed that the bioluminescent bay in Vieques is even more impressive!
After we wrapped up kayaking we drove back to San Juan to prepare for our first day of the photoshoot.
Day 2 – Toroverde Zipline Park & Las Delicias Falls
We were up bright and early to head to our first location for the photo shoot. The first shoot took place at Toroverde Adventure Park in Orocovis. It was an hour and fifteen minute drive up into the mountains of Puerto Rico.
Toroverde is home to the longest zipline in the Americas; The Monster. At one point The Monster held the title of the longest in the world, certified by the Guiness Book of World Records. Interestingly enough we were not the only ones being photographed that day at Toroverde. A very well known celebrity was also there to promote the wonders of Puerto Rico, Jimmy Fallon!
When we arrived at Toroverde we saw Jimmy’s entourage along with Jimmy himself. He was in the middle of a FaceTime call, giving the person on the other line a visual of The Monster. From the sound of it, Jimmy seemed a little nervous to take the leap. You can see Jimmy’s actual reaction here.
We were suited up and the shoot began! We met our photographer Omark and his girlfriend and Puerto Rico influencer Maria.
We really enjoyed working with them, as they encouraged us to be ourselves so they could focus in on our chemistry.
After a few shots of us getting ready, we went on to conquer The Beast as The Monster was occupied by a very hesitant Jimmy Fallon. This 4,745 foot long zipline offered stellar views of the valley below, but it was hard to focus on the valley’s beauty at a speed of 60 mph, your vision tends to get a little blurred.
After conquering The Beast we were back in the car following our photographer through the winding mountain country side to a local hotspot, Las Delicias Falls.
This falls are a definite must see if you plan on visiting Puerto Rico. This was definitely the most entertaining portion of the shoot as Dan and I continued to splash freezing cold water on each other over and over again just to get the perfect shot. However, Dan made the greatest sacrifice when he stood directly under the falls to capture one of our favorite shots ever.
I think Dan’s T.H.O. lasted a few days after this one. That was a wrap for Day 2.
Day 3 – Hotel El Convento, Castillo San Felipe, Umbrella Street, & Pigeon Park
Another early start lands us in the heart of Puerto Rico, the capital city of San Juan. So far you’ve heard about the gay side of the LGBTQ+ shoot, it’s time to add in some lesbian action! We got to meet Riese, CEO and founder of the world’s most popular lesbian website, Autostraddle, and her girlfriend Sarah. They were hilarious, seriously waiting for their sitcom.
We started the shoot at Hotel El Convento, a boutique luxury hotel. Walking into the lobby feels more like an open conservatory filled with local lush plant life; this, partnered with sunny walls, and rustic red flooring immediately offer up the feeling of old world charm.
For this shoot we had a full crew. Rosario, our photographer, Jean Paul (JP) of Discover Puerto Rico, and our own personal stylist, make-up artist, and light crew.
After breakfast and introductions we headed to Castillo San Felipe Del Morro to get some shots around the fort. Castillo San Felipe Del Morro, built in the 1700s, was one of the most feared fortresses and deemed unconquerable by many of Spain’s opponents.
We loved shooting around the fort, taking in the breeze from the Atlantic ocean and strolling the wall that transcends the beauty of the Mary Magdalene Cemetery. The cemetery was built to overlook the Atlantic Ocean to symbolize the spirit’s journey to cross over to the afterlife. A perfect spot to reflect and be grateful.
We headed back into town to hit the famous Umbrella Street (Fortaleza Street). Pastel colored umbrellas float above the road, creating a lively technicolor pattern.
We were able to partner up with our lesbian counterparts to develop some unique, never before seen shots. We loved cracking each other up which was captured beautifully. We felt like Dorothy coming down the yellow brick road!
We then strolled over to Pigeon Park. It’s exactly what it sounds like, so if birds freak you out or gross you out, I suggest you stay away. However, this park is an icon in Old San Juan and may be worth a visit for the views it provides of the ocean. For $1.00 you can purchase a bag of bird seed outside the gate to enjoy the pigeon palooza. I think it’s worth mentioning that all of these great sites and attractions are within a short walking distance so don’t miss them!
We headed back to the Hotel El Convento to catch some evening “magic hour” shots of us enjoying the rooftop pool. This ended a perfectly packed day of sightseeing and shooting.
Day 4 – Condado Vanderbilt Hotel
The last day of our shoot consisted of luxury shots of the beautiful Condado Vanderbilt Hotel. We were welcomed with open arms by the staff, they ensured we had everything we needed. We started with pool shots. Rosario got very creative and ended up taking our photo 14 floors up looking down on the pool, our favorite.
Next up was Avo Lounge – a cigar bar. This was a little out of our element, but it was a fun atmosphere, and the shots were very captivating.
It was a short day and final day of shooting so we decided to catch up on some much needed sleep. When we woke up from our nap we headed back to the Vanderbilt for a fine dining experience at 1919. If you want the absolute best service on the island don’t hesitate, you will find it here. A great memory to cap off the night.
Day 5 – Paddleboarding San Juan, Las Paylas Natural Waterslide, & A Taste of Fiestas de la Calle San Sebastian
We woke up to our last day on the island and we planned to make the most of it. We decided to take up our Airbnb host’s suggestion and head to Laguna Del Condado in San Juan to paddleboard. Being she is professional paddleboarder thought it best to trust her recommendation.
We headed over to San Juan Paddleboarding and paid $20 for two hours of paddleboarding. We drifted off into the bay and hoped to spot some manatees who occasionally float in from the ocean. It was Dan’s first time paddleboarding, he picked it up very quickly and only fell in once, nice work babe!
The bay is surrounded by a highway which was a little inconvenient but the calm waters helped set a tranquil state of mind. Unfortunately we did not encounter a matinee, oh well, maybe next time!
We beached the paddleboards and drove 45 minutes to Las Paylas Natural Waterslide on the edge of El Yunque. Our photographer Rosario recommended Las Paylas and told us this river was a very beautiful and spiritual experience. We didn’t want to miss it.
When we arrived at Las Playas we were a little stumped, we saw a tiny parking spot overlooking a ridge, but no river. When we got out of the car we were greeted by an elderly Puerto Rican man who spoke very little English. We discovered that this portion of the river was actually on his property and over the years he installed a staircase and a parking area so locals could enjoy the river. In return he asks that visitors pay $5 per veichle to ensure the area’s upkeep. So awesome.
We headed down the short trail which revealed an amazing sight of giant boulders and towering falls. We jumped from boulder to boulder down to the natural waterslide. The waterslide is a neat feature, but is probably more enjoyable for kids. We preferred lounging on the boulders and hanging out in the natural pools.
After a couple hours we headed back to the car, thanked our host and hit the road back to San Juan to explore the opening night of Fiestas de la Calle San Sebastian.
Fiestas de la Calle San Sebastian is an annual event centered around San Sebastián Street (Calle San Sebastián). This four day event, brings a close to the celebrations of Christmas. You heard that right, Christmas in Puerto isn’t just a day event. The island celebrates the holiday with many sub-holidays through December and January.
The area is shut down to thru traffic, and locals and tourists alike pile into Old San Juan to explore the arts, music, crafts, and cultural heritage of Puerto Rico. We stopped quite a bit to listen to local musicians and tried to follow along with the Spanish singing crowd We strolled through shops that would normally be closed, and enjoyed local foods. A perfect dose of culture to close our perfect vacation.
What do you think, does Puerto Rico have more to offer than you previously thought? Let us know in the comments below!